there comes a time in every submale's life where he has to decide whether to remain in his ego, playing at submission - or to fully embrace that submission and live the dream.
there's nothing intrinsically wrNog with a male deciding to express his sexuality in terms of his own pleasure. difficulties arise when the same male chooses to describe himself as a "slave".
most males stop at porn/fantasy and never get beyond that. their egos won't let them.
Women can mistake these males for the real thing and attempt to build a life around what they say they want. but it's impossible to develop any relationship with someone who isn't being realistic about their wants/needs.
in this case, it doesn't matter which party isn't being truthful - nor does it matter whether the dishonesty is born of ignorance or malice. the end result is the same.
porn, like the majority of drugs, costs money - because it's better than real life. it's a focusing in on tiny fragments of the real world and excluding everything else.
problems kick in when the male spends too large a percentage of his life in porn (or his drug-of-choice). the same mechanism that makes the regular user of mind-altering preparations start to blur the distinction between "reality" and "dreams".
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Space ace – brett smiley
When you get a little older in life, you do it, or you do not.
Is a sub male, always a sub male, and always been a sub male, in my case I think not.
So my submission came from a history of being a womaniser, hurting a lot of women emotionally, my self also, and realising it was better to have my control taken away, so who best to control me, than an assertive woman, for many years it was fantasy, on my part, then reality struck , fantasy to reality, women can be tough, and if the chemistry is right, your womanising days are over, women these days know how to exercise complete control over a man, a good assertive woman will ensure you womanise or flirt no more.
In two decades I go from assertive to submissive, and my submissiveness tested I become a slave as I will permit a woman to incarcerate me, take me into her custody, and treat and train me as a slave, but am I a slave, do I describe myself as a slave, a slave is for life, so what is this limbo.
So when describing oneself, as a slave, indeed as you say a woman can mistake these males for the real thing, someone they can invest time in, and train up, into their ways 24/7/365, and develop a relationship, but in my opinion a woman should find out the full history of her sub, and establish what their own needs, aspirations, and wants are, and keep the sub as a sub, in time she will establish were she wants this to go, she is in control, the sub is being trained in her ways, and she has noted the excess baggage.
It is important that all parties are truthful, from my own experience because I can only offer time zones for submission, I am used more as a faceless item, this really is what a slave is, so my life in submission goes from one owner to the next, I feel more of a slave because I have less worth, I serve with a greater degree of servitude because I wish to gain favour and hope the woman I serve, will not tire of me.
For I porn is controlled, I know it displeases those women I serve, and they have ways of correcting my ambitions and attitude, but I agree the male gets his stimulation from porn, it is the easiest source, and cheapest. The mind altering preparations come from the control, and indeed reality and dreams intermingle, and eventually the control of and from ones assertive woman is more stimulating than the porn or the dreams, I was directed to this blog by such an assertive woman, I thank her for her wisdom.
I must run now, I wrote this to keep my mind active and off porn, my control for this next few days commences in 10 minutes, pushed forward from 4-30 to 5-00pm, that is being assertive.
Chaste4domme
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