my first brush with subspace came during my second bdsm relationship. i had recently left a relationship with Someone who'd used impact play, but neither of us knew that it wasn't always meant to hurt.
a Lady i'd originally met online and later, negotiated with, invited me to Her home and after the initial nervous coffee and stop-start small-talk, i was led upstairs to Her well-appointed dungeon.
i was like a kid with the keys to the cakeshop! the room was filled with heavy wood-and-metal furniture, the walls groaned under the weight of row after row of hitty and hurty things.
in that room, i experienced pain i had only fantasised about up til then. pain that emanated from Someone Else, that i couldn't control - and certainly couldn't stop!
and, in that room, under that Woman, i was taken to subspace for the first time.
subspace is not only a soiree on the "home-made heroin", but the natural result where trust meets power imbalance. yes, that's right - unlike other drugs, the more often you do it, the better it gets!
and, like music or cinema, one's subjective experience is enhanced by sharing the moment with a Trusted Other.
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